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“This is a culture of hard work, struggle, encouragement, and change…” This profound tagline, crafted by athletes, has resonated with me for over a decade, shaping the ethos of every team I’ve coached. While the exact words may adapt to fit the environment, the inclusion of “struggle” remains constant.
It’s a testament to the belief that struggle is not just inevitable but essential for growth and reaching one’s potential. Understanding and embracing struggle from an early age significantly boosts the likelihood of success across all facets of life. The narrative below elucidates the nuanced role of struggle and the unintended consequences of circumventing it. This story, which I’ve often shared to illustrate the concept of struggle to parents and young coaches, underscores the vital importance of fostering an environment where exploration, risk-taking, and, ultimately, growth are encouraged:
The Butterfly
A man discovered a butterfly cocoon and observed a small opening form one day. He watched intently for hours as the butterfly struggled to push its body through the tiny gap. When the butterfly appeared to cease its efforts, seemingly unable to continue, the man intervened, cutting away the remaining cocoon with scissors. The butterfly emerged effortlessly, albeit with a swollen body and wilted wings.
The man watched, expecting the butterfly’s wings to expand and support its body, readying it for flight. However, that moment never arrived. The butterfly, now incapable of flight, spent its life grounded, crawling instead of soaring.
The man’s well-intentioned act of haste failed to recognize the critical purpose of the struggle: the restrictive cocoon and the effort needed to break free were essential in driving fluid from the butterfly’s body into its wings, preparing it for flight.
This allegory serves as a powerful metaphor for life’s challenges. Facing obstacles head-on strengthens us, equipping us with the resilience and fortitude necessary to achieve our fullest potential. A life devoid of challenges might seem appealing, but it ultimately leaves us unprepared for the trials ahead, unable to “fly.”
As coaches and mentors, the environment we cultivate plays a pivotal role in shaping our athletes’ approach to challenges. By encouraging an atmosphere of trust, risk-taking, and perseverance, we help our athletes find their “struggle spot,” a crucial step in their journey towards self-discovery and improvement. The question then becomes, which “beast” are we nurturing within our teams—the one that fosters growth through adversity, or the one that stymies development with fear and distrust?
Embracing struggle is not about seeking out hardship for its own sake but about recognizing the inherent value in overcoming obstacles. It’s through these challenges that we learn, grow, and ultimately, learn to “fly.” Let’s cultivate an environment that honors the struggle, encouraging our athletes to push beyond their perceived limits and soar to new heights.